187: Why Are We In A Hurry?

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Welcome back to the Shoot It Straight podcast. My friends, back when I was launching Root to Rise, I kept getting asked questions like, well, when will I see results? And how can I guarantee that I’m going to be successful in the program? And will this work? Will I reach my goals? And I want to share today’s episode with you, not from the perspective of, Hey, you should join Roots Rise.

But truly from the lens of maybe you’ve had a thought like this about coaching with someone or a program, or even just reaching your own goals independently on your own. These are thoughts that we have. How fast can I do this? How can I guarantee that I’m going to be successful? Right? We wanna know that the time, money, effort, energy that we put into something is going to pay off.

We wanna know that if we decide to go towards that thing, it’s going to be worth it in the end. Right? So I’m going to share the responses that I give these women when I’m asked this question in hopes that you will hear what I have to say and it’ll spark a truth for you. That it’ll spark a realization that you will have a little bit of an aha, if you will.

The first thing that I obviously tell everyone is nothing is promised. I cannot promise results. I cannot promise you’ll hit your goals. I cannot promise how fast something will go. There are no guarantees. Even if you show up and do the work and, and put your head down, there’s, there’s no, there’s never any guarantees.

And the same goes for things that you are building and goals that you have, that you’re working on independently. There’s no guarantee that things are going to just pop off and take off and succeed. That’s, that’s not a thing. Right. We, we don’t know what’s going to happen in the future. Okay. We, we can’t tell what’s, what’s down the line.

But when we follow our intuition and do our best, and when I say do our best, I don’t mean that you are setting yourself up for failure. I mean that you’re showing up for yourself, that you are taking action. When you are doing those things, making an effort, showing up for yourself consistently, and you are following something that felt intuitive to you, the idea, the spark, whether it’s, you know, I wanna build something new, I wanna go into a new niche, I wanna open a brand new business, or I feel like I should join this program or work with this coach, or go attend this thing.

When the combination is there of following your intuition and then showing up and doing the work, you are going to be more successful than not. Again, there are never any guarantees. There are never any guarantees of hitting income goals or reaching thresholds that you are looking for, but you are going to get farther than if you were to stay still ignoring your intuition.

Or not showing up and doing the work. The combination of those two things is like the magic pill, and I work with so many business women and I often hear that they miss one of those two things. They’re either doing the work and they’re working so hard, but they are absolutely not listening to their intuition or they are.

Hearing their intuition, but they are not following through and doing the work required because there’s fear involved or hesitation involved or uncertainty involved. Generally it’s one of those two things. Rarely I meet a woman that’s not doing either, and so while there is never any guarantee in what you’re gonna get, you are going to get so much farther than if you are in the position of not doing one of those things.

I hope that makes sense. The other part of what I tell these women when I get asked these questions about, you know, how fast and can you promise and will it work is progress is slow. And specifically I’m talking about root to rise right now, but I think you’re gonna be able to glean something from what I’m about to say.

I have created this program and this container to be foundational. It is foundational work. Oftentimes I am working with women who have been in business for years and I am making them pull way back and start to uncover, well, why are we doing this and what does this part of your process look like? And what was your thinking when this decision was made?

We go, we, we go backwards and we are doing this deep work both in their business and in themselves. It is slow because it’s foundational. When you are building the foundation of something, you are starting at the bottom. We are not starting halfway through, we are starting at the bottom and building our way up.

Sometimes some of the foundational pieces were already in place and they are in a good place and we are able to then, you know, climb up a little bit faster. But oftentimes we have to go backwards and undo some stuff and then rebuild. I have worked with so many women who joined this program and felt like the progress within the program was really, really slow.

Even though I told everybody ahead of time that it was going to be slow still, maybe in their minds they were thinking, oh, she says slow, but like they had a different speed in mind. So many women I work with think the progress is so slow. The program is five months, and the first. Three months of that are again, slow.

We are doing foundational work. We are backtracking, we are undoing things and redoing them the right way. So what happens is we get to the end of our five months together and very often, very often women have not hit their goals yet. Maybe they haven’t even really started to have momentum yet. I will say never have they been disappointed.

But there is that little bit of, yeah, you told me this was gonna be slow. And you’re right, it is slow. I wish I was farther along right now, but I’m trusting the process because that’s what I build into them. Trust the process. But what happens the vast majority of the time is we finish the program. If it’s a spring run, we finish in May, and that’s right about the time that the momentum starts to shift.

The foundational pieces have been laid, and now we’re picking up speed. So often I have gotten messages later in the year, in September, October, November, from women who are hitting the goals they did not think possible for themselves off of the momentum that we built in the program. So, for example, I have one particular student and she wanted to hit six figures for the first time in her business.

Like I said, we did a ton of deep work. We went backwards, we changed some things and it felt really, really slow. And when her time in the program wrapped in May, you know, she was so thrilled with the work that we had done, the changes we had made. Things felt good to her, but she said point blank. I am currently not on track to hit six figures this year.

I don’t think it’s gonna happen. I believe it will in the future. I’ve loved my time here. I’ve loved working with you, but you know, I’m a little bummed because it doesn’t look like it’s gonna happen this year. I kid you not. On October 1st, I have a screenshot on October 1st, the first day of the last quarter of the year, she tells me that she has already hit six figures October 1st, and then she followed up with me in January and let me know that she had gone obviously well past that goal.

Because of the momentum and trusting the process. I have women who join the program with goals of wanting to get more organized and tighten up their client experience, work on their mindset, and they don’t really have like a financially tied goal, right? They’re like, my business is making money. It’s doing well, but I want it to feel better.

Those women will go through the program and then all of a sudden I’ll get a message. Oh my gosh, I had my first five figure month ever. It wasn’t even a goal of mine. It was a byproduct of all of the foundational work that we did. I can’t tell you how many times I hear this story. It is more common than not that this is how it goes.

And so anytime I’m talking to a woman about joining a program, whether it’s mine or a another one, or about reaching their big goals, I remind them that to really reach your goals and do it well, it is slow. Why does it have to be so fast? Why are we in such a hurry? Who told us that we had to be able to hit these big lofty goals and do it with such speed?

What would change if we trusted that steady and aligned slow momentum and progress is actually the shortcut. And when I say that, think about it. If you are committed to laying the foundational steps. Doing the deep work so that the momentum and the progress goes in a sustainable fashion, you are able to hit your goals faster than if you try and speed through things.

Because what inevitably happens when you try and speed through things is things get missed. Things get done wrong or ways that you would rather them not. Things get messy and chaotic and you often have to go backwards to fix stuff, which slows you down from meeting your ultimate goals. So what would change if we trusted the process?

Trusted that slow and steady is actually the shortcut, honestly, is fast, even the right thing to be hoping for. We have these dreams of our business and our lives. Yet we focus on how fast can we get there instead of just can we get there. When we focus on speed, we don’t uncover the mindset work that needs to shift, right?

That’s actually holding us back in some ways. We’re not able to work on the deep habits that need to change, that will serve us along the way. We don’t necessarily align with our bigger dreams. Fast is not always good. I see women. When in the long term they don’t sprint. They stay. They stay when it’s uncomfortable.

They stay when it’s slow. They stay. When they are trusting the process, even though they are unsure of the outcome, they are refining. They are refining themselves. They are refining their systems. They are. Working with coaches or courses or whatever on the process, they are trusting the work they’re doing.

They’re questioning everything and allowing feedback to come in, and they let those changes and those refinements and that growth compound over time. Fast growth is loud. And there are definitely people out there that you see on the internet that have had incredibly overnight, it seems success, massive life-changing, speedy results.

I’m not saying that’s not possible, it is. What I am saying is it’s rare, number one and number two, almost always there is a some sort of crash and burn on the other side. Not saying that their business gets burned down, but oftentimes when growth is too fast. On the other side of that, there’s backtracking, there’s an intentional slowdown so that they can build their team up to support the growth, or there is an intentional slowdown because they burned out and they have to take time for themselves.

They need a sabbatical to get back to where they were, or there’s an intentional slowdown because all of a sudden they exploded to a place that is not actually where they ever wanted to be, and now they’re trying to figure out how to get back on the right track. That’s what happens time and time again with explosive fast growth.

It may look sexy and exciting and loud on the outside, but truly internally on the other side. It is scary and it is hard, and it can be devastating to relationships and people and their health and their businesses. Sustainable growth is quiet, and it is slow, but quiet. That quiet, slow. Growth it builds.

And what it builds is a sustainable business that is able to grow and change with you. You’re not chasing it, you’re walking with it hand in hand. It allows space for the life you’ve always dreamed on. So I really do hope you heard this from the perspective of being in a hurry, whether it be, again, with a program, a course, or just your goals.

There’s not a magic pill. There are things that can support you to keep you accountable. There are people you can work with to hold your hand and hold a mirror to you and help you get through the muck. That process, like I said, is actually the shortcut. It’s not necessarily going to be fast, but it is actually the shortcut because you’re skipping the mess.

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